Heard of ghosting yet? Want to know what’s at the back of it? Read on.

‘Justified’ cowardice.

It’s become a buzz word on the app dating scene and essentially means when a person just vanishes into thin air. No dumping by text, no call, no social media message, just silence. Some would argue this is acceptable after 1 date or perhaps a 1 night stand now a days. Certainly when my folks where growing up this would have been considered a cardinal sin.

But today with the speed of the dating scene, ghosting is a known of ‘thing’ and it’s mainly the cowards. There is a reason behind this to.

They’re the dreamers. The ones who think there is another universe. The Earth speaks to them. They’re believers. They think the grass is always greener on the other side. The eternal optimist. Sounds all nice, until the shit hits the fan and they’re the first ones to turn and offskie. When alls cosy and fine they are the most judegmental and opinionated and then when needs must they vanish like smoke.

They harbour some idea they are more tuned in than everyone else and so know more about ‘it all’ than everyone else and so know better and so… has an excuse to behave like a coward. They know best. Or think they do.

In a dating context I guess one needs to carry this new trend and accept it’s there. Perhaps ask. It’s a typically awkward question for early on dates of course.

On another level, what if your partner of 6 years left and disappeared? That’s not excusable (excepting someone fleeing an abusinve relationship). Or what if a parent suddenly disowned and ghost their own child after 36 years? Is that still ghosting?

Certainly the act of a cowardly parent.

At the end of the day the problem is they are not grounded in reality. Heads in the clouds type stuff. Believe in magic and fairies.

And ruthless in their righteousness and ultimately end up with a cat or a dog.