Your totally welcome for tea. Your ideology might not be and that is where you need to up your game.

In my book if you want to be any of the above – that is 100% fine by me. If you feel the NEED to make me agree with your life style and expect me to participate then for me you’ve crossed a boundary line. Do as you will – I will give you respected tolerance (so long as the kids are all good) but do not expect or need my approval.

Respected tolerance is due in a world of people with different ideas on how to live. Fine we’re a society of billions and everything is not everyones cuppa exactly. So by all means be who you want to be, no problem. Solid ground, easy. Expect others to participate, automatically approve and empower your ideology and your on a very slippery slope to quickly fall out with me and the rest in the world.

They are also for me all consuming ideologies in the sense of each to some degree wants to bring the world around to their way of thinking and that is just not how things are going to pan out for anyone. I would typically not include Islam in there if it was not for Sharia law. A collective government should always be secular. There’s a difference between ‘swearing’ by a bible in the US and apostasy being illegal as it is in Saudi Arabia and Iran. Ones religious ideals should not be dictated by the state – on anyone, in any circumstance. If Scientology didn’t practice disconnection and commit the largest act of domestic terrorism in US history I would also not include them.

Ones beliefs are a right. Making others also believe is not a right – it’s being a complete arse! And redundant, best hope is resigned cooperation, which is a far cry from belief.

No one in this world is born entitled. Certainly no one is entitled to tell one and all how to live.

It’s with the notion of entitled ascendancy that you let down your own team.

I remember once one guy who was chatting me up in a gay pub – fine. I was there with friends. Only open pub at the end of a night, too busy for me but with good music, ok you get the picture. Ended up being chatted up by a gay lawyer.

Good looking chap at that but I have never been inclined to be gay and said as much from the off but the chat was flowing and we got into it. He was busy trying to secure gay marriages for gays in Scotland. I found it interesting. He seemed happy to share his views.

I was sympahetic to the notion, we talked of legal short falls that might be in his way (I’ve my own in depth knowledge of Scottish family law) so the chat went on.

We hit rocky ground when he said gays should be also allowed to adopt.

His argument “Why not?” my argument “Why?”. He’s saying give a gay couple a chance, I’m arguing give the kid a chance… he quickly got quite defensive. We’d been talking for a good half hour – fair effort considering we were discussin law over 1000s of decibels of pop music and both knew it was harldy any sort of a ‘pull’.

We had to part company though shortly after he said “Right, once gay marriage is legal, I’m going to start a campaign to make hetro marriage illegal” at which point I honestly felt sorry for him.

He’d lost all my respect and the same was true in reverse and we did the mature thing and went our seperate ways.

The world is full of a billion sub-cultures. From politic and religious bents to whether one plays bridge or rides a motor bike.

Follow football, be Catholic. Vote for Tory (R) or Labour (D) or whoever. Believe the Earth is flat. Sleep with who you like (legally). Consume what you will. Believe as you will. Work or not as you will. Live as you will. You have my respect (so long as innocents are not subject to woe from your actions).

The instant you try and encroach that way of life on others without their consent – you’ve just picked a fight with the world.

Another gay guy once (I do seem to attract a few) tried to chat me up. After I explained I was not gay he backed off. Half an hour later he returned with a pint of Guinness for me (my choice drink that night). I accepted and we talked for a bit. Then he leaned in for a kiss and I said once again, sorry, not my thing. An hour later on the dance floor I was being pulled! He’d come up behind me and I initially thought some lass had taken a fancy until I turned round and seen it was him again. I left the dance floor and he followed me.

“Do your thing, that’s fine. Touch me again or come near me again and I’ll drag you outside by your ankle and jump on your fucking head”. I shouted before I let go of his shirt and took my hand off his throat. I never seen him again.

Pursuing your way of life is totally fine – expecting or having to have me or others participate or even agree when you are part of a sub-culture is bang out of order. Own it. If your seeking agreement for who you are, decide if your comfy in your own skin or not. Don’t need/seek enablers. If you like to ride motorbikes you can totally do this, without having to make buses, bikes, trams, planes and walking illegal. Or be offended by those who prefer other modes of transport.

Keep on with this – everyone should think like us and you will be ostracized to the degree that you do. Dangerous cults think that way.

Bear in mind some Muslims in China are segregated now. Scientology is segregating itself from the world right now. Vegans trying to stop people eating meat… Nazi’s you need to admit your hey day has been and gone. Gender neutral Santa?!

Let’s call 2018 what it was – the year everyone got offended.

You’d do better to realize your reality might not apply to one and all.

Do your thing, let others do theirs.

Demand respect and tolerance for one and all, no one is born with a right of entitlement to be followed though. That is earned by inspiring, without enforcement.

Rules and laws should be aimed at justice, not conformity.